A Mother’s Leadership

I was recently filling out the departmental scholarship application for my upcoming college year when I was asked to respond to this prompt:

“Describe examples of your leadership experience in which you have significantly influenced others, helped resolve disputes, or contributed to group efforts over time.”

I tried to think of something in the past year that would make an impression. Something that would show that I had what it took to succeed. In all honesty, this past year has been a juggling act of college courses, trying to succeed to some degree at the stay-at-home mom position and managing our busy schedules. I was pregnant and in college chasing two toddlers around. Then pregnant and chasing two toddlers as my husband worked 70 hours a week on the night shift. Then I delivered our baby girl and for the past 3 1/2 months have been getting accustomed to having 3 kids under 4 years while starting up college full-time once again. Quite frankly the only extracurricular activity I’m interested in is a sleep marathon. Read more ›

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Kindness over Judgement

This blog post was inspired by A Single Snapshot over at One Mother to Another blog.

When I was at the library studying with baby girl yesterday, Tony took the boys to do grocery shopping. It was one of those rare occurrences when the wind is blowing in the right direction and the stars have aligned where both boys behaved perfectly. So well that two different families pointed their behavior out to their kids as examples of what they should be doing.

More often than not I’m the mom with two crying kids as I argue with the third about walking out the the car. We’re the parents with a screaming, kicking toddler because we are carrying them instead of letting them run off for the 8th time in a store full of shoppers. We’re the ones whose toddler has no shoes or socks because undoubtedly within 1 1/2 minutes of putting them on, they have been taken off.

Those are the snapshots people will most encounter when they see us and I’m sure that there is some judgement from others. Just like the other parents out here, we’re just doing our best to raise well-adjusted, respectful, independent members of society. But in doing that we are going to have to deal with all the tantrums, arguments, crying and stubbornness that comes with raising children, and you’re going to get to see that. Because how else are we going to be able to teach our children how to live and act appropriately if they aren’t exposed on a daily basis to situations that ask them to practice those skills.

Raising children is difficult. They are constantly developing and growing in mind, body and spirit. Parenting is a combination of nurturing their independent being, guiding their development and teaching them right from wrong. It’s not going to be pretty and controlled all the time. It is very, very rarely anything like those diaper commercials you see on TV. Most of the time it is a noisy, paint-splattered, “what’s that smell,” roller-coaster ride complete with dirty diapers, tears (not going to say whose) and half eaten PB&J’s. Yet if you ask most parents they’d say it was well worth it. Which gives us another reason to show a little kindness to them on their worse days.

It’s just important to remember you’re only seeing a second of that families life and kindness goes a lot further than judgement.

 

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Introducing Arabella!

I love to write and a blog seems like a fun way to do it. But lets be honest. I’m a busy woman and even with the best intentions I can’t seem to get time to keep up with this.

So here we go again with a much needed and surprise update for everyone. On October 31, 2015 at 3:31 am we welcomed our first daughter Arabella Evelyn. She was born at 7lbs 7.2 oz only a day before her expected due date! Read more ›

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To Answer the Inevitable Questions Now That we are Expecting #3

We just announced that we are expecting our fourth child (third child here on earth with us) today. Our expected due date is November 2nd! To be honest my husband and I considered not telling anyone until May which would have been about halfway through the pregnancy. When you have children so close together there will be inevitably questions and comments that will come up. Usually these are meant with the best of intentions. When you start heading into the “large family” territory you will start getting even more questions and comments. So, instead of repeatedly answering these, I thought I would get a head start here.
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10 Things I Wish I Had Known Before Starting College as a Mom

Those of you who follow my blog probably know that I have two young boys. William (2.5 years old) and Ignatius (1 year old). I am also pursuing a B.S. of Fisheries and Wildlife Sciences online through Oregon State University as a full-time student. Before I combined the two I wish someone had told me the following things.

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Introducing Ignatius!

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This post is about 5 1/2 months late.🙂 But here is our newest addition.

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He was born March 12th 2014 at 4:03 AM. This guy was a big baby, weighing in at 8 lbs 3 ozs and 21.5 inches long. I went into labor naturally this time and he was born just shy of 38 weeks gestation. He had just a little trouble with his breathing but after a few hours under a warming lamp in the nursery he was perfectly fine and we avoided any NICU visit. The top picture is from the day after he was born and the bottom picture is just last week. He’s taken to breastfeeding like a champ, but I struggled due to his tongue tie causing this momma a lot of pain for the first 9 weeks. I was able to again have a natural childbirth but things got a little dicey when it seemed like he had gotten stuck. Obviously no one expected a women whose first baby was just 5 lbs 8 ozs to give birth to a 8lb baby. So everyone was surprised at his size and I am blessed that my body decided that it was time to go into labor and not wait another 2 weeks.

In other news, he was born as my college classes were on the verge of finishing up. Luckily due to good communication, my professors and I worked out a plan and everything got turned in. I also was able to finish the next term and I start the fall term at the end of September. Slowly but surely I am working my way towards that degree.

My oldest is going to be turning two next month. The time has flown. He’s now racing around the house, often barely missing running over his brother. We are moving again at the end of this week and William enjoys unpacking the boxes as I try to pack things up. Our newest struggle has been potty training, which has been put on hold until after we move. He was ready at 15 months but I was in my third trimester and too exhausted to attempt it.

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With two kids and college starting up again next month I am not sure when I’ll get time to write again. I’d like to be able to post more often here and will do my best to do that.

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When it was just us.

Perfectly sums up my feelings as I navigate life with a toddler and newborn.

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Last night as I was rushing through a shower to wash the ever-present milk smell off of myself (just to get spit up on again right after), a familiar song came on Pandora. It was one that my husband used for his alarm sound when we were newly weds. It caught me by surprise when my eyes started to tear up. Instantly, there was this wave of emotion that swept over me with just the first few notes. The feeling ran deep. It was powerful. I was taken back to those mornings, waking up with him beside me and starting the slow crawl out of bed to get ready for work…already looking forward to getting home to curl up with each other on the couch. It was just us.

I miss my husband.

We are three years into this marriage. We don’t hold hands. He sleeps on the couch. I…

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